You Cannot Force Feelings Unless..

I said this from back in 2016, you cannot force feelings unless you are getting free trips to Dubai, The Caribbean or the Maldives. Periodt. This year, I have met guys and they are telling me they are already on it and you get the ‘I never thought I meet by Black Queen’ message on Tinder. Erm, who’s man is this??

Cuffing Season

You can’t rush a relationship because of Twitter and its cuffing season. You can end up in something not beneficial for you and it takes you longer to get out of it. Just because you know and feel that you like me and I am still deciding my feelings, you get offended and start saying stuff like if you don’t like me then tell me, so I know my place. *sighs in Zulu*. Bossman it is date 3, you need to rest.

You like what you’ve seen of me and what about if I only show my best side at all times. You haven’t seen me emotional, upset or frustrated or angry, only happy. I can choose to be anyone on texts or in person. So, if I meet you after work and am I in a bad mood, can you be bothered to deal with it?

Feeling a type of way

Punishing someone for not feeling the same way as you isn’t the one. If me and you watch Top Boy and I love it and you hate it, shall I punish you? Apostle will hear of this. A relationship can start really well but you could get caught up in fantasy and you’ve got to have a vision and clarity if things are long term or for the here and now.

If I ask you to take it easier or a little slower, try not and be offended. Don’t think things are out of order like the Mcdonald’s Ice cream machine. This is where communication is important as you need to understand why you other half might not be feeling the same way as you and what it will take for them to feel the same way. sometimes feelings take longer to develop.


Throwing around words such as love, girlfriend, partner, boyfriend, soulmate early on can create pressure that you have to think or act the same way according to those words. Words are powerful things and can often be misconstrued.

Everyone is entitled to an opinion whether it agree with yours or not. We might just be getting to be in the same book, then eventually move onto the same chapter but you are stressed cause I don’t feel the same way, or I fall so quickly for you. Stay calm babes. I haven’t seen an Emirates Airways ticket to Dubai yet, so the feelings are not there…… even a young Eurostar will do sha.

Red Flags and Change

Don’t ignore the red flags cause you want to see the good in a person and you try and convince yourself you like them, because they like you as well. Deciding whether you like someone or not should be a ‘Le Struggle’. You can’t force a vibe, either it’s there or it’s not. Are you falling for convenience or reality? If we are meant to be together for a lifetime, then when are we rushing at the beginning?

It is so funny, you are so quick to catch these feelings, equally you can lose them just as fast. One day you are my everything and the next I am talking to myself on iMessage cause you haven’t replied. Are you mad?

Just know this is not Davido ‘Fall’ or Love Island and the prize is £50k, it is real life and I rarely fall for anybody’s son unless I see mine and his name on a boarding pass.

Peace until next time.

This Girl Can Write, A

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  1. Saba 11/09/2019 at 3:25 pm

    Congrats on your 100th blog post! Love it xx

    1. This Girl Can Write A 11/09/2019 at 11:50 pm

      Thank you so much xx

  2. Bigsby 12/09/2019 at 6:14 pm

    They say love is a fools game after all and a lot of people are fools for love.

    However if a guy likes you and you don’t feel it that way let him know rather than play the slow down limbo.

    If a guy says he doesn’t want a relationship don’t get attached and hope he’ll change his mind 6 months down the line he already stated where he stood.

    1. This Girl Can Write A 17/09/2019 at 6:04 am

      Totally Agree, If he doesn’t want a relationship then don’t force it either likewise, if he likes you and you don’t like him let him know. Open up your mouth and communicate. Thanks for reading my post!

  3. Kendra 26/09/2019 at 7:55 am

    I find it these days at my age to be honest up front about ny feelings. I am not trying to waste anyones times & yes I do expect them not to waste mine. I am not going to rush into having strong feelings for someone because they have chosen to fall in love with me so quickly, nope jot at all. I did that once & will not do it again. Too many men & women are out here pretending, I have no time for that. I know what I want, I just don’t want to be rushed into it.
    Thank you for this blog xx


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