Listen, is the internet an 11:00am deadline at Uni and your laptop is doing a windows update at 10:58am?
With lockdown, we are spending more time on the internet than ever before (the bandwidth is struggling) especially on social media. That’s all good but you must be mindful of what you take in.
People on social media in the comments is something I can’t comprehend. These people have a BSc in Complaining in Social media (Strong 2:1), arguing with people in the comments about something that has never affected them. #youseeyourlife it is not attractive babes.
Engaging and taking in negative vibes especially when the outside world is so negative will not do wonders for your mental health.
‘A negative mind will never give you a positive life.’
Don’t engage or accept those vibes. Bad vibes don’t go with my outfit *clicks fingers*.
Remove those people from your timeline or feed.
The internet will lead you to think you should have children, be married, cook for your husband 4 times a day, maintain your figure, workout as well as having good relationships with family at 26 even in Quarantine. Can I even spell ozzband? Allow me please, I don’t want to be rushed into a housewife.
Or people who have been SOOOO productive during lockdown starting 3 businesses, gaining followers, losing weight and it’s all over social media etc. It is not everyday – people who keep reminding you that you need to do something in this lockdown. Will you keep quiet?
I just want to catch up on the lack of sleep I have accumulated over the past 8 years please. And not feel guilty about it.
Then there is the people that have turned chef and are cooking every meal time and posting the recipes but I can’t even boil water. I cannot come and die for my lack of cooking skills.
Every black girl is doing DIY box braids, knotless braids and passion twists but my edges are in London, can I even cornrow? I feel attacked.
The internet will try and rush you but why would you let it? Nobody is posting their failures.
You don’t have to be married with kids at 25. It’s okay not to have your dream job by 30 or not graduated at 22. It’s not that deep. Don’t let people rush your timeline or you. With lockdown, we are wanting things to return to ‘normal’ but what is the rush?
Don’t be in such a rush to figure everything out. Embrace the unknown and let your life surprise you!
‘In the rush to return to normal, use this time to consider which parts of normal are worth rushing back to. – Dave Hollis’
Everyone in life starts on a different path and we all go on different directions.
The main aim of this pandemic is to stay safe, healthy and in your yard. All these other things are add-ons like chewing gum at the tills at Asda.
Don’t let the internet rush you. You are doing fine wherever you are.
I hope you are well and staying safe
Peace until Next Time,
This Girl Can Write, A